Vaginal Massage: A Step-By-Step Guide

Vaginal Massage: A Step-By-Step Guide

Vaginal Massage

Vaginal massage can be beneficial in so many different ways. Massaging the vulva and vagina is a great way to engage in some serious self care and show your precious bits some love and pampering. Vaginal massage can help you relax and connect with yourself and your body intimately.

Rubbing and caressing your vulva and vagina will also increase blood flow to the area, it can heighten your sensitivity, and even help relieve pain. In some cases, vaginal massage can build arousal and lead to orgasm – and sometimes (with the right techniques) it can help work your way up to squirting!

The practice itself can also look very different from person to person, depending on your individual intention with your vagina massage. In this post, we’re going to talk about the what’s and why’s of vaginal massage, and I will bring you on a general step-by-step guide for how to perform a vaginal massage. A guide that will be useful no matter what you’re looking to achieve with your intimate massage.

Table of Contents:

  • How to Perform a Vaginal Massage
  • What Is a Vaginal Massage?
    • What?
    • Why?
    • Who?
  • Benefits of Vaginal Massage: Pleasure, Pain Relief & Pelvic Floor Health



How to Perform a Vaginal Massage

If you’re not really sure how to get started without knowing more about the basics of a vaginal massage, I’d recommend that you skip down to read the next section first: What is a Vaginal Massage?

But if you’re already familiar with the concept, and you’re eager to get into the juicy details, then let’s jump right into the step-by-step guide of how to massage a vagina!

Step 1: Arrange Your Space

There’s some prep work involved with setting up your space for a vaginal massage. You want to feel as comfortable as possible in your space!

Find a private place that you feel comfortable, clean, and safe in. A bedroom, bathroom or bathtub, for example. A lock on the door is a plus for avoiding interruptions!

Make yourself comfortable with some pillows or blankets. Good cushioning can really add to the experience!

Go the extra mile and set the right mood for your vaginal massage:

  • Lighting – dim the lights or light some candles in your space.
  • Music – put on your favorite kind of music that will help soothe and relax your mind and body.
  • Temperature – I would recommend you keep a nice and warm temperature in the room so your body parts will feel comfortable as they are exposed, and your hands won’t feel cold to the touch.
  • Scents – perhaps lighting some incense or an oil diffuser will help put you in a relaxed state and elevate the ambiance in the room.

Have your lube or massage oil ready next to you (I would recommend using 100% coconut oil for a vaginal massage).

Step 2: Prepare Your Mind & Body

Make sure you are mentally prepared for this intimate massage session. Try not to have too many stressors around you that will pull you out of the relaxing state.

Put your phone away (or at least put it on silent)! You can also try to make sure no one will disturb or interrupt you.

Take the time to set an intention with your massage before you begin. What are you trying to achieve with this? Why do you want to do a vaginal massage right now? Use a few moments to get into the right headspace for whatever intention you put forward.

Prepare your body for the vaginal massage as well

  • Make sure your nails are trimmed and your hands are clean.
  • Get into the right position. Use pillows or cushions to support you in a position that feels good for you. I would recommend lying on your back with one pillow under your head and another under your hips. Legs slightly bent and spread comfortably apart (for more support in this position, you can prop some pillows under each leg from the side).
  • Warm up for your vaginal massage with some sensual touching. Run your hands gently along your body, let them graze sensitive parts of your skin, and start massaging your breasts, your lower stomach, and your inner thighs.
  • Breathe into the sensation. A big part of warming up for a vaginal massage is really ensuring physical and mental calmness. Calm your nervous system by taking deep, regualar breaths while you start the sensual touching.

Step 3: External Vaginal Massage Techniques

Once you’ve applied plenty of your coconut oil or your favorite lube on your hand and your vulva, you can begin massaging the vulva itself.

If you are performing a vaginal massage on someone else, or your partner is performing one on you, it’s important to re-establish consent and comfort at this stage. Make sure everyone involved is ready to begin direct vaginal stimulation.

Once you’re ready, you can try out these techniques to externally stimulate and relax the vulva.

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